Flo, I'm going to ask you a couple of specifics here. Do you speak other languages? I speak Chinese. When you're talking with these girls, are you speaking in English or Chinese? Usually mostly English. And, and how, and so when, once you say something like that, you're guessing that,. And so then they pull away. Is that fair? Yeah, it kind of feels like that. It's more like, it's not like my past has totally stopped replying to my past. But you sure it's just kind of feel like it becomes harder to get them to talk to me. So I don't, I just don't put in the effort