How to Deal With Shame and Guilt

There's this assumption that if it's difficult to hear and it causes shame and guilt, that we should not then go there. And in shame is different than guilt. Shame is where i feel that i'm a bad person. As guilt is like i did a bad thing. It's ueserly me as a whole and bad. When we feel guilt, we actually get into action mode. We do more to fix the thing that needs to befix. If we're not offering them that,  we're leaving everyone feeling kind of impotent on issues that we care deeply about. Again, our good person identity makes us want to see the world aligned with that. And