How to Deal With Shame and Guilt

3min Snip

00:00

Play full episode

Summary

Transcript

Episode notes

There's this assumption that if it's difficult to hear and it causes shame and guilt, that we should not then go there. And in shame is different than guilt. Shame is where i feel that i'm a bad person. As guilt is like i did a bad thing. It's ueserly me as a whole and bad. When we feel guilt, we actually get into action mode. We do more to fix the thing that needs to befix. If we're not offering them that, we're leaving everyone feeling kind of impotent on issues that we care deeply about. Again, our good person identity makes us want to see the world aligned with that. And

Most of us want to be good people–but what even makes a person “good?” And is our fixation on whether or not we ARE good holding us back from becoming even better? Dolly Chugh is an author and social psychologist who studies the psychology of good people. In this episode, she explains how ethical behavior is full of complexity and paradox, and shares insights on why even striving to be a “good-ish” person can actually help us grow into the better, nicer person we want to become.