You can actually change your self talk. And this you can change through emotional processing. So let's say i'm not motivated to date, but it's really hard for me to go on dateand as i talk to someone, so i've talked to patience,. For example, be like, yat, it's reallyhard for me to going on ay, i'll talk to them. Why? Well, i had this one relationship that lasted seven years, and then the person kind of abandoned me. They don't wat to waste their time, because they put seven years into this relationship and they didn't get it back. That creates all kinds of pressure on the other person. It