In September 2010, while pressing a pistol to his head, I heard someone outside my apartment door. When I opened the door, Kathy was standing there. We engaged in a heated argument that led her to ask me a life altering question. Chad: How can you do all the things you've done in the military Afghanistan be willing to die for your buddies but when it comes to your family, you quit? "I felt like literally like the best description, I felt like I was going to die," he says.