How Do We Signal Our Emotional Life?

We have all this host of unconscious expectations that were developed through the first two or three years of our lives during the attachment phase. A great psychologist named John Bowlby synthesized this into the phrase internal working models. Basically, he said there are these unconscious guides that we all have that are essential map of how we believe other people will act in relationship to us. And they not only predict how others will act towards us, but they also give us impulses to respond to act.