Desire, leadership and congruence

This episode explores how intimacy, desire, and erotic states function as powerful tools for healing, nervous system regulation, and personal transformation. You’ll learn why certain forms of conscious erotic play create genuine altered states of consciousness, not through substances or external compounds, but through the body’s own internal chemistry. This conversation reframes sexuality as a core aspect of health, performance, and emotional resilience rather than something separate from personal development or spirituality. 

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Kimi Inch is a somatic therapist and educator with over 20 years of experience working at the intersection of intimacy, conscious kink, trauma healing, and embodied self awareness. Her work centers on helping individuals and couples access deep states of connection and healing through structured, consent based practices that engage breath, sensation, power dynamics, and presence. She is known for creating safe, grounded spaces where people can explore desire in ways that support lasting nervous system regulation and authentic self expression. 

Together, Dave Asprey and Kimi explore how erotic experiences trigger specific neurochemical responses including oxytocin, serotonin, endorphins, and adrenaline, and why this internal cocktail mirrors the effects of many psychedelic and somatic healing modalities. They discuss surrender, safety, attunement, and aftercare as essential components of integration, and why unexpressed desire often leaks into leadership, relationships, and performance in destructive ways. 

You’ll Learn: 

• How erotic states create real altered states of consciousness through internal neurochemistry 

• Why intimacy can function as a powerful form of nervous system regulation and trauma healing 

• The difference between conscious desire and compulsive behavior 

• How surrender, safety, and attunement reshape emotional and relational patterns 

• Why suppressed desire leaks into work, leadership, and relationships 

• What makes healthy power dynamics healing rather than harmful 

• The role of aftercare and integration in long term transformation 

• How erotic intelligence connects to vitality, authenticity, and human performance 

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Dave Asprey is a four-time New York Times bestselling author, founder of Bulletproof Coffee, and the father of biohacking. With over 1,000 interviews and 1 million monthly listeners, The Human Upgrade brings you the knowledge to take control of your biology, extend your longevity, and optimize every system in your body and mind. Each episode delivers cutting-edge insights in health, performance, neuroscience, supplements, nutrition, biohacking, emotional intelligence, and conscious living. 

New episodes are released every Tuesday, Thursday, Friday, and Sunday (BONUS). Dave asks the questions no one else will and gives you real tools to become stronger, smarter, and more resilient. 

Keywords: conscious kink, erotic healing, intimacy and healing, altered states of consciousness, somatic therapy, nervous system safety, erotic intelligence, surrender and intimacy, power dynamics psychology, trauma and embodiment, aftercare and integration, neurochemistry of intimacy, oxytocin bonding, endorphins and pleasure, consent based intimacy, asking for what you want, suppressed desire, authenticity and intimacy, biohacking intimacy, Dave Asprey intimacy, Kimi Inch Biohack 

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Timestamps: 

0:00 - Trailer 

1:25 - Altered States Through Kink 

4:41 - Learning to Receive 

12:17 - Play Parties Explained 

19:31 - Life Force Energy 

26:40 - Desire vs Compulsion 

28:23 - The Kidnapping Session 

35:53 - Aftercare and Integration 

45:35 - Bedroom = Life 

52:50 - CEOs and Surrender 

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