How Do We Over Control?

We try to control things by losing ourselves in our thoughts. We lock into emotional reactivity, and then we end o behaving in ways o try to protect ourselves. There's a way in which we move through life wired to feel in secure, and then wire to control so bad things won't happen. And we get hooked in it, and there's tension in our body, and it becomes like an armoring that we wear. So can we begin to see how we over control? How and how many moments? Is not just when big things are happening. But the potential of our evolving consciousness to shift from that sense of impending doom and something's wrong, to a quality ofreal present