You don't want to get swept up by his stuff, right? You want to try to control the conversation. And as you listen to him, just be careful with what happens within you. Your mind thinks that fear is tied to reality and gets reinforced through what happens in the real world. The interesting thing is that despite the real world telling you, hey, everything is ok, everything is alright, it sounds like your parents really contradicted that - they were like, no or no, it's not ok. They can'te trust the world. But the good news is, as we grow into adull s and we form our own relationships,. i think this problem will slowly get better