Are You a Victim or a Hero?

I think that the thing that gets us into these emotional swirls where we can't figure out what to do is that we always assume that there's a villain and a victim and a hero. And so if we continue to see ourselves and those in within that triangle, that's where we start to not be able to like understand how we get out of the situation. That's so real because I think about one of the most important breakups of my life. Like I carried the idea that I broke us for so long and that my ex was the hero, that he was the perfect being and I, my brokenness broke that. But even just recently, even though we broke up years