The Spirale of Upping the Ante

How do you help when a couple is in that kind of, what did you call it, the spiral of upping the ante? How do you help them stop the cycle and move from criticism to consciously communicating or to deepening their willingness to be vulnerable? Well, I want to say how I would work with people in a coaching session would be very different than what I would just recommend on a first kind of like podcast. Because there is a bit of habit and just we almost get it. It can be even a little addictive, right? If we're in this critical state of like being right or calling things out or, you know, it can be very difficult to just switch.