If you're not able to self-differentiate and explain why you don't want to go along with something that you're being pressured to do, then you are less likely to feel authentic. This is especially true if you end up in a conflict of wills where your boss or the church council is trying to show you why you are wrong. Another form of reactivity is add-activity. That is when you don't take a stand, you don't self-defined and you just give in without stating what you really believe. I actually think this might be the more dangerous of the two responses because even though there's not a lot of drama, over time it will get even more difficult

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