Are You Trying to Be Successful at Something?

We have an identity right now based in whatever the situation is. And if we take steps that move us towards a more successful outcome, that's going to change our identity. We can't keep saying, i'm a failure, and i screw up and i make all o these mistakes. Sometimes it can be that we're afraid of overshadowing or ashining somebody. So maybe we've learned dim our light so as not to outshine a parent,. Or so as Not to Outshine a sibling. This causes us to compromise ourselves. If your identity is suffering, you will not put yourself a situation that stops you from suffering.