You focus on how hard it is all the time it's going to feel harder than it actually is. The minute that anything happens throughout the day that causes you any reasonable level of normal anxiety, you go to super mega anxiety because now you've your expectations were wrong okay and now you've not been able to manage that expectation. You're like fuck I can't get through a fucking day without feeling like this wall right? That's what people do in their lives they do it over and over and over again he says.