Staying at your current job is actually not the safe route. You're so paranoid about taking a chance that you play it safe and in playing it safe all you're left with is one lifeline, he says. "You grow up dumb once you grab a lifeline what do you never do under any circumstances" He advises people who are struggling to let go of their past like they've got to see how it informs decision-making. The court is there but recognize that as you try to step onto it you're gonna have to like let go of life even if you have a good relationship with your manager.