How can we aim high, achieve our goals, and get what we want out of life without falling prey to unhealthy striving and excessive perfectionism? Dr. Diana Hill joins Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson to explore the costs of perfectionism, productivity anxiety, psychological flexibility, calming the threat system, and how we can go from striving to thriving.
About Our Guest: Dr. Diana Hill specializes in evidence-based and compassion-focused approaches to living well. She has a thriving private practice in Santa Barbara, CA, is the author of the ACT Daily Journal, and is one of the hosts of the Psychologists Off the Clock Podcast. Diana is also the host of a new podcast called Your Life in Process launching in Jan 2022, where she offers practical teachings and conversations on becoming psychologically flexible from the inside out.
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Key Topics:
0:00 Introduction
2:00 Dr. Hill’s personal journey
4:40 Signs of unhealthy striving
6:50 Recognizing striving in the body
12:50 Signs of being in a healthier place around striving
16:15 What drives perfectionism and how to develop comfort with difficult experiences
22:20 Psychological flexibility and how to see your experience more clearly
26:35 Social and internalized factors in the search for approval
34:55 Practical ways to develop psychological flexibility
38:00 Inner freedom and choice within discomfort
45:30 Exposure therapy and cognitive diffusion for releasing control and anxiety
55:00 The middle way and climbing the mountains that are important to you.
59:50 Recap
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