"You don't need to be like, this is unfair. This is a relic of the patriarchy," she says. "Instead, just let your actions do the talking." If you start helping out at Thanksgiving, people will make fun of you for doing woman's work and then they're going to attack him or her as ungrateful; he doesn't have to say anything. He advises women to talk to their parents about it: "Get em to understand what i should expect from them"