282: The Honor Roll Hangover with Melody Wilding
Pivot with Jenny Blake
The Gift of Intuition
The book came to you almost as a download, she says. With the pandemic and everything it's become all-more relevant that we're talking about mental health. So like you said, it only takes one person.
Believe it or not, your emotions are a competitive advantage: 90 percent of top performers are also high in emotional intelligence, and 92 percent of executives rate soft skills like the ability to manage emotions as a critical priority in today’s business environment.
That said, if you relate to the idea of being a Sensitive Striver, you may still be suffering from what Melody Wilding calls The Honor Roll Hangover—a tricky trifecta of perfectionism, people-pleasing, and overfunctioning. Listen in to this conversation for the antidote.
More About Melody: Melody Wilding, LMSW is an executive coach, human behavior expert, and author of Trust Yourself: Stop Overthinking and Channel Your Emotions for Success at Work. She is a human behavior expert and executive coach and teaches graduate-level human behavior and psychology at the Silberman School of Social Work at Hunter College in New York.
🌟 3 Key Takeaways:
- Leave margin in your life for serendipity and fluctuations. Don’t be afraid to book yourself to only 80% capacity.
- Protect your time and energy by protecting your calendar. Sensitive strivers need the time to switch gears between activities.
- Trusting yourself is the antidote to perfectionism, overfunctioning, and people-pleasing. Depend on your intuition more.
📝 Melody’s Permission List:
- I hereby grant myself complete and unlimited permission to:
- In order to:
- Specifically, I have permission to feel:
- I have permission to be:
- Specifically I have permission to push when:
- I have permission to rest when:
- I have permission to start:
- I have permission to try:
- I have permission to stop:
- I have permission to let go:
- Giving myself full permission and wholeheartedly believing in myself is important right now because:
- I trust myself to:
📘 Books Mentioned:
- Free Time: Lose The Busywork, Love Your Business
- Pivot: The Only Move That Matters Is Your Next One
- Trust Yourself: Stop Overthinking and Channel Your Emotions for Success at Work
- Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free
- The Highly Sensitive Person: How to Thrive When the World Overwhelms You
🔗 Resources Mentioned:
- Melody on the web | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram
- Video: Celebrating one year of Trust Yourself
- Articles: Medium Article on Trust Yourself, Forbes on Being an Overfunctioner at Work
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- 73: What's more important to you than perfection? With Jenny Blake
- 56: Perfection Detox with Petra Kolber
- 78: How to Stop Feeling Like Sh*t — With Andrea Owen
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