I wouldn't think about it as them being disrespect of your boundaries. What i would think about is what upsets people is when you confound their expectations. They feel super self conscious for eating crappy food all the time, you know, their partner is like getting into shape. And so you could say, i can't believe that some one would be upset that someone else wants to eat healthy,. That doesn't make any sense. But what's going on is, we were both going to be degenerate peats of eating mother fokers together, and then you decided to go get healthy. And now what am i supposed to do?