A key first step is to acknowledge the electric wire fences that bound what people are comfortable with. As a therapist, I'm sitting there attempting to be someone that a client can securely attach to. And then when it starts to happen,. their tendencies to rest in insecure attachment modes of relating get stronger as a kind of resistance to the subtle gravitational pull for me. There's a defensiveness. Of course you did that. It's understandable. You get underneath the defense or the inhibition, right? The maintenance of the bars of the cage. And you start to realize, oh, wow, that's why I'm this way.

Get the Snipd
podcast app

Unlock the knowledge in podcasts with the podcast player of the future.
App store bannerPlay store banner

AI-powered
podcast player

Listen to all your favourite podcasts with AI-powered features

Discover
highlights

Listen to the best highlights from the podcasts you love and dive into the full episode

Save any
moment

Hear something you like? Tap your headphones to save it with AI-generated key takeaways

Share
& Export

Send highlights to Twitter, WhatsApp or export them to Notion, Readwise & more

AI-powered
podcast player

Listen to all your favourite podcasts with AI-powered features

Discover
highlights

Listen to the best highlights from the podcasts you love and dive into the full episode