In our late twenties Andrea and I had very different visions for our joint business venture which led to a resentful professional and sadly a personal split. When we stopped being friends in 2012 she was with the person that led to one of the darkest times in her life. Then when we reunited six years later I was living with Jared and she was starting to date Felix whom she married this past October. And what we found is that we had so much compassion for each other which is a word you should remember from our episode open relationship we're cheating. Compersion is a word that seems to be exclusive to the polyamory community and it's described as taking joy in your another person's joy.