Getting a New Couch

In a marriage, and for that matter, in any kind of relationship, to resolve a conflict involves putting aside one's presumptions about what the other person is thinking and feeling. And instead really listening to what the otherperson is saying, and then making it clear that one really is listening. That became the solution to the couch problem. When we stopped interrupting each other and stopped talking over each other and very clearly stated what each of us wanted to happen we were able to come to an agreement. It took a little bit of doing, but we found one, and it's coming next week.