Nicholl: We could tell somebody all we want that we're a leader. Let me tell you, i'm a leader. And it's really about the felt experience of the other person. So for example, you might be somebody who historically asked a lot of questions or asked for advice from others. Instead, i think, in a more leader stance, i might come to you now with what i call the comment and the question. I'm going to share with you my judgment, but then hold openness to other perspectives. That inherently keeps the value of our firm and mitigates risks on renewals.
The shift from being part of a team to leading one isn’t like flipping a switch; it’s a process, and often an awkward one. Not only do you have to convince other people that you can and should lead, but sometimes you have to convince yourself. That’s not always easy for women, given that leadership has long been defined by how men act. Finding a style that’s authentic and resonates with others requires reflection and patience.
We talk to two leadership coaches about what distinguishes a leader, how to know if you’re ready to be one, and how to best make the transition. Then our hosts discuss their own leadership journeys, and the Amys share tips with Nicole that they’ve learned along the way.
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Our theme music is Matt Hill’s “City In Motion,” provided by Audio Network.