We've got this model of toughness that says, that's how you become tough. And i think what we see is we're stuck in kind of the 19 forties and 19 fifties version of toughness. It's essentially like giving me a hammer and saying, any problem you face, just use this hammer and you're going to figure it out,. Well, the hammer will work for when a nail is there, but unfortunately, for life like we're faced with a myriad of different, you know, difficult things we have to encounter. In real toughness, to me, is about developing this diverse array of tools so that we can match the tool with the problem.
Steve Magness is a world-renowned expert on performance, well-being, and sustainable success.He is coauthor of the best selling Peak Performance and The Passion Paradox. In his coaching practice, Steve works with executives, entrepreneurs, and athletes on their performance and mental skills. He also serves as a consultant on mental skills development for professional sports teams, including some of the top teams in professional sports.
In this episode, Eric and Steve discuss his book, Do Hard Things: Why We Get Resilience Wrong and the Surprising Science of Real Toughness.
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Steve Magness and I Discuss How to Build Resilience and …
- His book, Do Hard Things: Why We Get Resilience Wrong and the Surprising Science of Real Toughness
- Asking ourselves if our inner voice is fair, rather than good or bad
- How we handle difficult things better when we feel secure and supported
- Defining toughness as navigating discomfort to make the best decision you can
- Understanding the importance of confidence in toughness
- Quiet internal confidence is about being realistic in our ability and the difficulty of the task at hand.
- How doubt is a necessary component of confidence
- A central component of internal confidence and motivation is seeing progress
- How consistency and taking small steps is what matters most
- Accurate appraisal of both the challenges we face and our internal feelings
- Understanding that feelings are the body’s communication system
- The importance of awareness and contextualization when dealing with feelings and emotions
- Dealing with the two types of inner dialogue – integrated and confrontational
- Learning to shift your self talk to 2nd or 3rd person voice
- How stress narrows our perspective and amplifies negative feelings
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