The Four Horsemen of Dream Destruction

We sit down with NYU professor and NYT Bestselling author, Dr. Suzy Welch, whose new book “Becoming You” redefines what authenticity and ambition truly mean. This episode is for anyone who’s built the “perfect” life on paper yet still feels out of sync – and wants a clear framework for working, loving, and leading with purpose and integrity.

We share:

✅ How Suzy’s test helps align who you are with how you live

✅ How to recognize when you’re living a B+ life

✅ The “Four Horsemen of Dream Destruction” – and how to stop them from running your life

✅ The myth of work-life balance

✅ Two money principles that will save you decades of regret

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⏰ Timestamps

0:00 The B-plus life vs. being “exquisitely alive”

1:07 Meet Suzy Welch

2:21 The Values Bridge

3:47 Cherie’s Values Bridge results: Radius and Achievement

7:56 The most controversial value: Eudaimonia

10:15 The importance of Voice

13:52 Beholderism and the desire for harmony

18:01 Why shared values matter more than chemistry

19:29 Belonging and Place

20:40 Belovedness

24:40 What shapes our values

25:45 The Four Horsemen of Dream Destruction

28:41 How language is a bridge to self-understanding

29:42 Ad Break: Read AI

31:16 Crisis, clarity, and becoming yourself

35:20 The myth of balance – and why Jensen Huang was right

39:25 Money advice: “There’s no last, best deal”

40:24 The sunk-cost fallacy – and owning your mistakes

43:11 Applying “no last, best deal” to love

44:46 Finding balance in partnership

49:58 Suzy on writing her next chapter

56:04 Approaching the world with fearlessness

57:30 Wrap-up

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