We just take, we take them on, and we're like, this is who i am. What's with me? I was thinking, like, do other mothers think of this. Am i just a bad mother? Like what i i've never heard anybody, which isn't even true. Your feelings and thoughts aren't personal, permanent or perfect. There's nothing to be ashamed of. This is happening to you, and it's it's ok. It doesn't say anything about who you are. It's not personal. This isa ruth king.