They just haven't found their rhythm yet yes yeah yeah they will get there so the first the first guy stands up and says I'm Spartacus and then everyone else is like well oh yeah sure I guess he's Spartacus. There are more interpersonal dynamics that happen in their friend group. The next big like set of scenes is the like summer trip in Europe that kind of culminates with her and this masochistic guy that she's with kind of having a blow up at her family house right? They each needed the other person to actually assert what they wanted in that situation and then neither of them do and then they never like revisit it until months or years later that's actually what marriage