Many who use pornography struggle to quit when they try to, even if they deeply believe it's wrong and even while using various tricks and techniques and "praying more". Porn is often seen as the problem, and it is a problem. But what if porn is the (false) solution being offered to a different "problem".  On this vulnerable and raw episode, Dr. Carol talks with Drew Boa about how he came to see "porn as my pacifier". They unpack the often-unaddressed issues that lead to pornography use. Hear how Drew did the hard and successful work to heal and develop a truly intimate marriage in the process, and how he now helps men find redemption in their sexuality, and healing and transformation in community. Connect with Drew Boa on his personal website, on Husband Material, or on Facebook, YouTube, or Instagram. Find Drew's book Redeemed Sexuality: 12 Sessions for Healing and Transformation in Community Check out Dr. Carol's new book Sexpectations: Reframing Your Good and Not-So-Good Stories About God, Love, and Relationships And look around at all the supplementary resources at YourSexpectations.com. Dr. Carol loves to hear from you. You can leave a confidential message here.