How to Be Pleasing to Society

We spend this time learning how to fit into structures that society creates for us. And I think that's why so many people go through some version of a quarter life crisis because we have this conditioning to check boxes that are presented to us. Do this and it is pleasing to me, the teacher, the school society at large. Or if you don't do this, you're not going to be pleasing to me. It can be disorienting to shift our focus from the external focus again that we are raised in  to an internal focus where we're asking what is pleasing toI.