So now all of a sudden, the blow job is not this sexy thing. The blow job is this thing that's forced. It's this thing that's painful. It's this thing that makes her not feel sexy. It's this thing that s her want to throw up, am due to the fact that she has lost control and you have taken over all control. So when she feels powerless, and she feels all these things that come along with this powerlessness, it's not a good feeling, right? And when she has that not so great feeling, and she associates that feeling, that very strong accumulation of feelings, two blow jobs, she's never going to want to give you a blow job, because that's the association tide. Now, and a lot of it, not always, but a lot of the time, it comes from this loss of control and this guy's excitement to fuck her mouth and just go crazy, instead of allowing her to be in control, hickis. So a little interruption. This is a small clip from a two hour long conversation of me and these three girl friends, where we talk sex topics, sex concerns that men typically have, and want a woman's perspective on. So the full conversation is in my course, overcoming sexual performance anxiety. If you guys are looking to overcome sexual performance anxiety, because it is a problem, you want to check out this course. The link is the description below. But enjoy this minny clip from the larger clip that is in ospa godo, next question, how do you feel? We kind of touched on this, how do you feel about it when a guy comes too soon? So if this has happened in the past, as long as long as it's not something, well, if it's like the first time that it's happening, like, i don't get offended. But like jeanie said before, if he is still like putting in the effort to like make me finish, then i don't really care a but i will say, if it's something that keeps happening, and, like i said before, like he doesn't talk about it, or he tries to like get out of the conversation when you want to talk about, like, why it's happening, then it becomes an issue.