Is There a Game in Social Attractions?

i think i've heard that one tactic to not become paralyzed by this sort of thing is to loosen the filter, the inherent filter we have in our minds. And so and actually, when i think about it, there have been a few situations where it's a social interaction, but i do just care less. So i wonder if maybe viewing these social attractions as a game in a way where you're just trying it'. It's get a game you'replaying with yourself whire, try not to let that filter get in the way of what you're going to sayand then just hope that the magic flows connecting you.