Is Fatherhood Really Like a Man?

Before the baby came, i reached out to a lot of my friends to talk to them about their own fathers and their feelings about fatherhood. And things got real heavy. There were some very dramatic estrangements. One friend's father chose a cult beck and filly over their family. Another friend dad was shot and killed during a robbery while he was driving a cab. But for most of the people who were gracious enough to let me pick their brains about this stuff, their fathers were more mundane mysteries like taciturn or maybe functioning more as a disciplinarian than a source of counsel or affection.