How Relationships Shape Your Brain | Dr. Allan Schore
Huberman Lab
Intro
This chapter examines how early childhood attachment patterns significantly influence adult relationships. The discussion focuses on the neuroscience of emotional development and offers strategies to cultivate healthier attachments in future generations.
In this episode, my guest is Dr. Allan Schore, Ph.D., a faculty member in the department of psychiatry and behavioral sciences at the University of California, Los Angeles, a longtime clinical psychotherapist, and a multi-book author. We discuss how early child-parent interactions shape brain circuitry, impacting our ability to form attachments, manage emotions, and navigate conflict and stress. We cover how the development of right-brain circuitry related to emotional processing and the unconscious mind regulates physiological responses, influencing adult friendships and romantic relationships. We also explore how improving your ability to listen to the emotional tone—rather than just the meaning—of words is a vital skill for fostering better relationships with yourself and others, and how it plays a role in reshaping brain circuitry.
Additionally, we explain how circuits in the right brain hemisphere drive creativity and intuition and discuss activities to access the unconscious mind. This episode delves into how the unconscious mind regulates emotions—both your own and others’—and shapes our sense of self. By the end, you’ll have new knowledge and tools to build more secure, meaningful, and impactful connections of all kinds: professional, romantic, familial, friendships, and beyond.
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Timestamps
00:00:00 Dr. Allan Schore
00:02:37 Sponsors: David & Eight Sleep
00:05:49 Thoughts & Unconscious Mind
00:07:36 Right vs Left Brain, Child Development, Attachment
00:13:19 Attachment Styles & Development, Emotions & Physiology
00:18:12 Intuition, Arousal, Emotional Regulation & Attachment
00:23:13 Psychobiological Attunement, Repair; Insecure & Anxious Attachment
00:28:33 Attachment Styles, Regulation Theory; Therapy
00:34:20 Sponsor: AG1
00:35:51 “Surrender,” Therapy, Patient Synchronization
00:39:46 Synchrony, Empathy, Therapy & Developing Autoregulation
00:45:07 Mother vs Father, Child Development; Single Caretakers
00:50:51 MDMA, Right Brain; Fetal Development
00:55:58 Sponsor: Function
00:57:46 Integrating Positive & Negative Emotions, Quiet vs Excited Love
01:03:33 Splitting, Borderline; Therapy & Emotions
01:09:24 Tool: Right Brain, Vulnerability & Repair
01:15:32 Right vs. Left Brain, Attention
01:19:26 Right Brain Synchronization, Eye Connection, Empathy
01:25:39 Music & Dogs, Resonance
01:30:58 Right Brain & Body; Empathic Connection, Body Language
01:36:47 Tool: Text Message, Communication, Relationships
01:42:18 Right Brain Dominance & Activities; Tool: Fostering the Right Brain
01:50:10 Defenses, Blind Spots
01:53:14 Creativity, Accessing the Right Brain, Insight
01:59:31 Paternal Leave, Parent-Child Relationships, Attachment
02:05:16 Zero-Cost Support, YouTube, Spotify & Apple Follow & Reviews, Sponsors, YouTube Feedback, Protocols Book, Social Media, Neural Network Newsletter
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