How to Deal With a Loser

"I don't feel bad for people who like dwell in self pity," she says. "If you sit there and dwell on it and go over and over again, talking about it, just, you don't have to." The more check-ins you have with yourself, the more questions you ask when you're having a bad day,. When you call yourself a loser, those are the most important times for growth. To improve your relationship with that woman moving forward comes from the way you treat yourself mentally.