The Importance of Alienation and Separation in a Family

In patriarchal societies that movement from your safety of your childhood family into what in the past and even for many women today may be little more than strangers creates automatically this condition of alienation and separation and vulnerability. Marriage starts to very quickly resemble the same kind of institutions as slavery and captive taking that within for example one of the master slave relationships within slavery would require you to take on the name of your master in order to be then subsumed within his identity. The idea that the wife takes her husband's name leaving her father's name behind that the father gives away his daughter to the husband's family is also a major vehicle for patriarchal power.