Esther Perel: What Makes Relationships Thrive
A Life of Greatness
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Are You Most Drawn to Your Partner When?
I took a question around the world for the last 15 years and I have yet to hear something different. People would say I'm most drawn to my partner when I see them in their element, when they're doing something that they are passionate about. There is never caretaking in that scenario. Caretaking is deeply loving, but it is an anti-afrodisiac because you are in touch with the fragility of the other person. In order to let go, you need to feel that this person here is steady. But if this person falls also, then there's nothing holding you back. Nothing turns me on more than to see him turn down is rather irrelevant for her. What
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