How to Let Go of Your Attachment

When you catch a wishie, what do you yearn for? Today’s book club episode might shift your “wish” hereafter to just one powerful offering.

Tosha Silver’s grassroots-to-bestselling book Outrageous Openness: Letting the Divine Take the Lead is a cornerstone of my collection, one that changed my life when I first read it nearly a decade ago.

The stories from this book were adapted from two years of Tosha’s columns for the San Francisco Examiner, after she spent 25 years giving nearly 30,000 readings to people from all over the world. After OO became a self-published sensation, she got a traditional book deal and republished with Atria a few years later.

More about Tosha: For the past 30 years, Tosha Silver has taught people around the world practical ways to align with Inner Love. She’s the author of Outrageous Openness, Change Me Prayers, and It’s Not Your Money. She particularly enjoys finding fresh, funny ways to embrace the Divine, while avoiding conventional jargon and cliches.

🌟 3 Big Ideas

• Divine Order and Divine Source: Learn to become detached to what the mind wants or thinks it needs; let go of grasping. Tosha writes, “Divine Order says that the perfect solution to any problem is already selected if you allow yourself to be guided; Divine Source says there is a natural Universal Abundance that knows how to meet every need. Harmonizing with this Force of Love—call it the Shakti, God, Goddess, One Mind, whatever you will—is the golden key to everything.”
• Outrageous Openness and Surrender: Surrender to the flow, “what wants to happen.” There’s also a bigger picture to manifestation and the much maligned Law of Attraction that includes our prarabdha karma, our soul’s course of study. Tosha writes, “Whenever I can, I love to be receptive to how the day wishes to unfold without any planning or interference of the mind. Since this skill grows with practice, I’ll intentionally create situations that involve relaxing and letting my instincts guide me.”
• Offering: When problems feel bigger or more intractable than your ability to meet them, offer them up to the divine, even the divine higher wisdom within you that’s already attuned to the universe at the deepest levels. Ask to be shown next steps. When experiencing intense writer’s block with OO, Tosha offered it to God: “If You wish this [book] written, I cannot do this on my own. You know my limits. But the perfect route is already selected, so if this is Your Will, fling open the doors. If this is meant to be, please bring the right help.”

📝 Permission: Let go of your attachment to the way things need to be. Release your grip, open your palms in an offering of surrender to something higher than yourself.

✅ Do (or Delegate) This Next: Try offering your biggest challenge by saying, “My perfect new path is already selected and will arrive at the right time. I’ll be shown the steps to receive it.” As Tosha writes, “Don’t strong-arm a solution. Call in Divine Order. Allow that the right solution is already chosen and you will be guided to it effortlessly at the right time. Then let go. Follow the steps as they appear. You’ll be shown the way.”

🔗 Resources Mentioned

• Tosha on the web, Facebook, Twitter
• Community: Outrageous Openness Forum
• Article: How "Outrageous Openness" was Born
• Songs: Fun. “Some Nights” (YouTube), Spotify), and “We Are Young” (Spotify)

📚 Books Mentioned

• Tosha Silver’s books: Outrageous Openness: Letting the Divine Take the Lead, Change Me Prayers: The Hidden Power of Spiritual Surrender, It’s Not Your Money: How to Live Fully from Divine Abundance
• Florence Scovel-Shinn’s The Game of Life and How to Play It and The Collection
• Jenny’s books: Free Time: Lose the Busywork, Love Your Business, Pivot: The Only Move That Matters Is Your Next One, Life After College

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• Free Time: 170: 🌈 “Imagine a World of Abundance” ✨
• Pivot: 27: Intuition And Frequency With Penney Peirce

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