There's a common root to narcisism, which can manifest in two ways. The non traditional narcissus is the same as an emotionally needy person. It has these other features, like being thin skinned and idealizing people instead of not idealizing people. If someone doesn't have time for you, that's a personal insult, or is justified based on how little you're worth. And i'm going to spend a lot of time figuring out how to get those emotional needs met. No matter what strategy i use, i'm going other people to notice and appreciate and tell me how great i am.