Are You Thinking Less Well of Me Now?

There's almost a resistance to be forgiven. Like something bad is going to happen if they're forgiven. It just means the person hasn't had the extinction experience yet. If it's been punished a lot, I mean, I remember an old therapist of mine long ago, we were working on shame and I just couldn't do this thing I wanted to do. And she said, well, you know, imagine long ago when you were a kid, you had to hold the chair off the ground with your arm and you were told if you put that down,. Your whole family's going to get killed. Now 25 years later, I'm saying it's okay to put the chair down.