I think that that's where joy is which I think also says how much or Joe boo how much of her child part is still activated. As you know, then fuck it and I'm gonna you know act out. Because what she's doing is she's acting out. To get her mom's attention. Mm hmm. So that her mom can tell her because like because it does I don't know. But even if we're wrong, our perspective and feelings are real. And when the first thing out of somebody's mouth is trying to fix, contain, manage or control somebody's feelings, they're taking away their right to have an experience of life. They really don't