It's been over a decade, jodie, since you had that conversation with about his true gender identity. Since then, clearly see things differently but he literally is the same kid. You know, i lost, i shifted out of a lot of relationships when i understood my son to be transe. That that's probably the biggest thing that has changed. A my my m the way i interact with people is different. I left a marriage. And so i went on to quest to learn more. The learning not only gave me insight to my son and to the millions of transe people that exist, but also to myself.