Sometimes people feel like they don't bring value to a relationship. And i certainly feel the same way about my relationship, in terms of getting really, really lucky. So what i'm hearing from you is that ultimately, like, you can actually have a very successful relationship. It's not about making the sacrifice or not making the sacr ice, or being able to be full of time employed, or having autism or not having autism. It's about ultimately being on the same page about where you guys are,. whether it's in a good place or a bad place. Ad, i'd imagine you're very good at listeningd and also, like,  you know what, people sometimes