How to Be Excellent in a Community of Friends

Once you're in that domain once you feel like you've really established a relationship with the person and kind of grounded then you can sometimes start to push for challenge. And you know only like in this sort of setting I would say only whip out the big guns like when you have to right like don't start quoting Aquinas unless there's really no other course of action. For me this has been the most effective way in is just a real spirit of like interest in other people because the thing is all about other people in the endright?