Is Sheu's Legacy a Mark of Disrespect?

At the time of my parents death, i was really struggling with the not only will I sever that connection, but it will be seen as the greatest mark of disrespect. It kind of almost brought me closer to her in a way that was more about compassion. Think the key for me, as she's gone, is like, want to keep her memory alive,. As opposed to wanting to sort of bury a part of her memory.