Dialogue Therapy and Real Dialogue

The issue is not communication. That's what couples will come to dialogue therapy or couple therapy for. But really often these are very articulate people, very educated people. It's dehumanization. So if you don't experience your partner as being a human being like yourself with vulnerabilities and limits and a background and wounds, you're dehumanizing that person. They're no longer vulnerable like you are. We dehumanize the other person. And then we feel somehow justified in treating them really badly including killing them.