How to Talk to Do Ratio

Today on The Mindvalley Show, we are creating a framework to develop your child's passion and vision for life. Our guest is Mathew Knowles, the father of legendary Beyonce and Solange Knowles and the visionary behind Destiny's Child. He gives insight into his mindset as a parent and how you can help your children achieve their wildest dreams.

No one can be great at everything, yet parents commonly pressure their children into being straight-A students, assume extracurricular activities, and expect perfection unseen in the adult world. Mathew believes perfection kills your child's creativity and prevents them from realizing their passions. He teaches you to nurture your children's natural abilities instead of molding them into your vision. 

We discuss the importance of honesty. Mathew reveals that he never hid his mistakes and struggles from his children. This honest communication set Beyonce and Solange up for success in the real world. Without experiencing failure, your children can't grow, and one big mistake could be their catalyst for greatness. 

Mathew imparts his key ingredients to develop your children's passion so they can dream big and never fear failure. All children have greatness inside them, and today we learn how you can become the positive influence your children need to achieve their vision. Your words and actions unconsciously influence your children's understanding of the world. Join us to discover how you can grow as a parent and help your child achieve their dreams.

Key Takeaways:

[2:00] Raising an Inspiring Daughter

[3:40] Growing up With Racial Trauma 

[8:00] Living a Life of Integrity 

[10:40] The Catalyst of Mathew’s Career

[14:45] Identifying Your Child’s Passion

[17:35] Supporting Your Kid’s Passion

[19:00] Kids Can’t be Experts in Everything

[23:40] Sharing Your Failures with Your Kids

[29:00] A Child’s Innate Vision

[32:45] Talk-to-Do Ratio 

[36:30] The Words You Choose Matter

Where to Find Our Guest:

The DNA of Achievers: 10 Traits of Highly Successful Professionals

Destiny's Child: The Untold Story

Memorable Quotes:

“I realize, every area we’re not experts in. I think parents sometimes we forget that, that ourselves we’re not experts in every area. There will be some areas our kid will struggle in.” [19:41] -Mathew Knowles

“We also shared our mistakes with them, and our failures with them. We didn’t hide that from our kids and I think that was a positive thing.” [23:43] -Mathew Knowles 

Words matter, especially with kids. What words you say is critically important, and I think when we have a topic like race, or we have a topic like education we have to be really careful how we say these words to our kids, because they’re like an empty glass, and we’re filling them up with our belief system.” [40:10] -Mathew Knowles

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