The Polyvagal Theory and Attachment

The attachment because the children have feelings and the system is just poorly organized. The cues that the parent is picking up may not be truly representative of the child state. This is how we we build closeness with other humans. In closeness, we build the capacity for emotional regulation. We find meaning, we find love, we find self. And all of this stuff you're talking about is requisite for those nice things to happen.