Is Your Grandmother a Monster?

I feel like the narrative and in our family was when one of my sets of grandparents was that My grandmother was this really nasty. Yeah And why do you think that your parents were like that? Did that come from trauma in their lives or what? How did they get there? I don't I don't know because it's not it's sort of subtle You know in the way that they were both they're both still kind of not really capable of Nurturing.