The Pillar of Separation

There are four pillars you identify in the book for how to find this kind of balance between meaning and stability. And they are separation, listening, building and integration. Separation always entails a kind of literal physical separation like breaking up with a partner or moving out of your parents' house. But we know that actually the sort of invisible hooks of childhood, of our parents, of a church we may have grown up in can linger if we don't really attend to them.