The Donut and the Heart and the Middle

Parents of T, I've described it sort of as a, as a donut. There's the behavior on the outside and there's the heart on the inside. So you're saying, obviously this father was wrong to wrestle his son, but he may have been right to take the keys away. He was so, so action in that sense to say, here's a privilege. We're giving you the car and you've done something wrong. And so we're taking that away. The kids are used to power plays. They resist all the power. What I'm trying to suggest is as parents, we get away from the power play language. You choose to give it up.