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How did you spend your summer breaks as a child?

Big Ideas:

How do you know when connection exists in a group?
The importance of having care/connection when giving feedback
Connection is not the same as relationship
Feel a connection to someone without a relationship
A relationship can exist without fully knowing someone
Trusting character versus trusting someone's competencies
Trust: Competence, Kindness, Reliability
BRAVING Model of Trust (Brené Brown): Boundaries, Reliability, Accountability, Vault, Integrity, Non-Judgment, Generosity
Intent doesn't always match impact - can care about someone and still hurt them
Creating more intention when giving feedback
Being unkind versus the perception of being unkind
Does kindness have a place in business?
We choose complacency and kindness can cross over - we don't give feedback when it's needed because we know it will hurt
When is too much too much
Connecting just enough to do my job well
How much is too much connecting as a leader?
Do people want their leaders to know about them?
Connecting with people to be strategic/manipulative rather than human
Do we need to know the in and outs of our teams to be a good leader?
Shifting connecting depending on the individual needs of your team
Do we need to manage the perceptions of others on our team?
You don't have to ask, but you have to listen
People on our teams have different attachment styles
Is it too much to have to adapt/chameleon to our teams needs?
Ask people what they expect from you and set boundaries
Accompanying our team members
Accompanying and giving the infrastructure to others
Having clear expectations and the same map means we don't need to be as connected
Connection is needed to set expectations and create the map together
Is connection turning into the solution to all of our leadership problems?
None of us has a map of where our business goes, so connection support us
Common understandings of what you need to be doing and then you can improvise
Pull back from connection as being "the answer" to your leadership issues
Knowing information can share that you care
The little things are important to others
Why are you connecting?
What's the "right" amount of connection with our teams?

Resources:

The Speed of Trust, Stephen Covey
BRAVING Inventory, Brené Brown
How to Know A Person, by David Brooks

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